Books of Lusts and Sexual Ideologies

Two months ago when I accompanied Grace in National Bookstore when she’s to buy special papers for our Project’s Green Star initiative (the mechanics of which I can’t easily discuss on this entry). As she was looking for the best material and yes, best buy, I roamed around the bookstore to basically have nothing as I am not really a book aficionado. It was then that I chanced upon this book titled “Mingaw”. It tells the story of a married couple’s cyber sex encounters as they were separated by distance since the husband is working in Korea, as the synopsis suggested. The book caught my attention as it has this bold notice, “Paalaala: Maselang Babasahin”. And yes, as I browsed thru some of the pages, I read some explicit blow-by-blow account of their “cyber-sexing”. And I really mean explicit, mind you.

Intrigued, I bought a copy of the book. As I was about to pay in the counter, I saw another book titled “One Night Stand”. I found out this new book was published by the very same publisher who published “Mingaw”, but they were of different authors. One Night Stand intrigued me as well as this one’s a story of a university girl who accounted all her sexcapades while pursuing her degree. And so going home I had two new books to read, with Grace laughing on me as I showed her these two tomes.

The books were about 100-150 pages only, just like any Tagalog romance pocketbooks which are sold three-in-a-hundred-pesos. And yes, it was written in Tagalog and like what I’ve said, words are very vulgar. You can find (and sorry for mentioning) the words “kantutan”,”titi”, “puke” amongst others unashamedly written as if the writers were just doing their inhale-exhale exercises. Honestly, you can finish one book for an hour (even less). I wouldn’t be a hypocrite, some parts of the book were lust-provoking… but a cold shower is enough to kill the heat inside hehehe (at least for me!). As expected, I finished the two books as fast as eating my big pack of Ruffles chip.

I brought the books in the office and discreetly encouraged my friends Ryan and Grace to read them. Little did I know that the discreet encouragement will become an office craze, with the books landing from one reader’s palm to another. Are we becoming perverts? Definitely not! We just wanted to be entertained with our sometimes boring office routines.

The question now is: What has the books taught us (or me to be safe in this claim)?

It’s not just about the ways as to how a distanced couple will satisfy their sexual cravings. It’s not simply a story of a girl who’s addicted to the sexual attention all men in her university are giving her.

There are more to the yearnings and desires one would feel while reading the books. There are many sexual philosophies that are artistically imparted by the writers which can ignite your ways of thinking about sex and the facts that goes with it.

I remembered my Psyche classes before when we always hear Freud’s most famous teaching, “Man is a sexual being”. With this as part of our daily class’ prayer (joke!), my classmates and I realized all the hypocrisies our conservative society has masked ourselves when coitus is the subject. It’s a big no-no and should not be discussed publicly. By doing so, we have been more curious about the ins and the outs of coitus interactus, much to the dismay of our morally-upright Moms and Dads. Let’s face it, our sex education was all about the birds and the bees back then, with our teachers explaining this carnal pleasure the most scientific way they could. As an effect, we searched for the most realistic and logical (and practical) means and explanations of knowing this interesting subject matter. We independently made our ways to know how orgasms are reached, what’s the best and most gratifying sexual positions are and sadly, we gained wrong beliefs and notions about sex per se.

I also remembered how my team had a hard time defending our thesis back in college. We were four in the group and were composed of curious yet inexperienced graduating students (Yes, I claim that we were virgins back then!). Our topic: Sexual Awakening of Fourth Year High School Students. How we effectively handled the grueling interrogation of our panelists is now very vague with me but I have my take-away from that experience and from the thesis itself which will forever linger on me; thanks to our very supportive and accommodating respondents. The learning, expressed in a simple equation is… curiosity + proper guidance = sexual wisdom.

Before any vilification and censure be given unto me (and I’m praying there wouldn’t really be any), I would just like to clarify something: I am not blaming our conservative society with the degradation of our morals and values. I also wouldn’t blame the youths of today (and adults like me) for taking this topic as if it’s a just another normal ritual in our daily existence, just like the way we wake up, bathe, eat and lastly, sleep. I still believe that it is right and most proper to discuss sex as sacred as it should be. I am still a supporter of a morally-upright society that all of us are wanting to attain. But, and there’s a big but; we can’t simply deny ourselves of the verities as to how we existed and that is, a man and a woman sexed with one another.

The books “Mingaw” and “One Night Stand” have many sexual ideologies which if I am to include in this entry you my readers would already complain because this would be lengthy. It’s up to you to check these books in the National Bookstore or in anywhere that they’re available. If you want to borrow the books from me, let me know as we need to schedule your turn; my friends are still feasting on them!

Oops before I forget, there are sequels. There’s LnaL and Foursome. And you got it right, I have these two new books. Finished reading them, actually. Now who’s the first borrower?